Last Thursday I published a video about rejection. It struck a chord with many of you because it’s something I think most of us can relate to as Bloggers/Webmasters in some form.
I told a story about a lady I was helping with her blog. She was considering a slightly controversial topic and concerned about what people — particularly men — would think. (Her topic involves relationships to an extent.)
I reminded her that you can’t please all the people all the time. There are always going to be critics, and you can’t spend time worrying about who is NOT going to like your site.
My comments caught the attention of Chante from My Natural Motherhood Journey and prompted her to do a video response.
She touched upon an aspect of opening yourself up that I did not in my video….
The backlash.
And I’m not just talking about an article or two from someone who disagrees with you. I’m talking about extreme forms of backlash where people go out of their way to discredit your content, publicly ridicule, or rally the troops against you.
Certain topics that are more controversial often yield extreme, emotional responses from people. So if you’re thinking of going online and sharing your opinions about certain topics, you have to be ready for what comes with it.
You may think that goes without saying, but it’s a point I should have made in the video. It’s one thing if someone doesn’t like the way you look or simply disagrees with your stance.
It’s a whole other issue when people rally to get your Facebook page removed or harass you in some way. Unfortunately some topics lend themselves to that kind of reaction. Great points, Chante.
“Lisa, You Can’t Relate.”
In the video response, Chante suggested that I couldn’t relate to getting backlash because I haven’t had to deal with any criticism in my niche.
Well, I may not have had any accounts removed (Chante’s example) or anything extreme, but I’m no stranger to criticism.
From being called the N-word many times on YouTube to being told that women shouldn’t/can’t teach programming, I’ve had my share of criticism over the years (especially on YouTube and via email).
It just goes to show that no matter what topic you choose, there will always be something for someone to say. Sure, some topics evoke more criticism than others, but most people have to deal with it on some level.
And the more popular you become online, the more you will receive. It’s just the way it is.
In fact, one reason I wanted to do that video was because I have grown a lot over the years. I used to be very concerned about what people thought and negative comments on YouTube used to really rattle me.
I’ve joked in the past about YouTube being like online therapy for me. The more videos I made, the more comfortable I became. Negative comments hardly phase me at all now.
So what about you? Have you ever been afraid to reveal yourself or write about certain topics because you feared rejection or extreme forms of backlash that Chante referenced?
And if you have been criticized, how did you handle it? Please share.
Lisa, thanks for this post. Rejection is part of life because t is not possible to please every body at the same time.
So when I get rejected by any body, I take some time to evaluate why some people are rejecting my ideas,product,services or personality.
But if from my evaluation I discovered that they are wrong I will simply ignore them.
Also,they say “CUSTOMERS are all right” Therefore If they are my customers will simply make effort to calm them down, because I need their patronage And MONEY to remain in BUSINESS
People feel like they are protected under the shield online. Just like driving. Someone can be a jerk on the road but a cool person in person.
Critique either online or in person is one way of challenging yourself. We cannot be perfect if rejection/criticism do not exist. So, better to accept it in a positive way not in the other way round. Anyways, no one owns you except yourself. Be positive in every ways to make up to perfections.
I have to say that I’m pretty much near the “oh, well..” stage of reaction.
Good advice. I’ve found that a lot of people online can’t take critique. It can be helpful, and people will get really angry about it. There was a friend I was helping with Web Design a while back who just deleted and scrapped his whole site when I offered my advice. I wasn’t trying to be mean or nasty… He just took it that way.
Behind every successful person lies a pack of haters who are jealous. Don’t give them the time of day and hope they just go away. If it goes too far, appropriate action shall be taken. If it’s considered harassment, keep track of it and file report with the appropriate authorities.
Hi,
I try to remain as professional as possible. Some people just love to talk crap and always seem unhappy regardless of what you do lol. If it’s something I find that I need to address I do. If not I usually just try to ignore them if there just trying to be a pain in the butt 🙂
Have a great weekend everyone!
Don
Thank you Lisa 🙂
Criticism is the ladder to reach heights. Hence before looking for an appreciation from someone, we must practice the habit of expecting any negative comments on what we do. It is must needed for the growth of the business. No business is perfect when made initially.
Lisa, I am not surprise people hate on those that are successful. It is when people stop hating is when I would worry. Just like Google says when someone shares your content it is a vote for your website. To webmasters/publishers when someone hates on you it is a vote that you are doing something right. In a job of mine it was rare to not have a complaint filed against you. If you were right, others would defend you. That is what people will do for you Lisa.
Hey, I notice you have upgraded to the headlines theme?
Its funny because I have just installed this on my new website!
Nice lisa, what exactly made you do this change?
Yep! I just needed a change and wanted something different and cleaner. I was too lazy to redesign my Thesis theme so I bought a new one. lol
Really a great article. You know, managing online criticism is so very difficult, since often, such comments are also spreading into your network. Sometimes, even the actual source of dissent is difficult to identify and so you can’t even nip the bud. Nice article again..
This is a topic I have had lots of very painful experiences.
I think criticism is helpful delivered carefully so it can be heard. When it is personal or mean it often can’t be heard so therefore ineffective and I have to believe at that point that it is meant to serve another negative agenda rather than being meant to serve progress or success so I don’t take it on. I have had my share of rejection and criticism and it has hurt me in my life until I learned that it usually isn’t about me, it is about their agenda. I look for hidden agendas quickly and this helps me determine their angle, and then determines my response or lack of one. Doesn’t always work but helps. Thanks for this conversation to remind me to stand for what I believe and just be myself which is good enough.
As far as I’m concerned, who cares if some people reject or criticize you. People aren’t always going to be happy with what you say, but you aren’t saying it for them. Plus, they will forget about it soon enough. What matters is that you are saying stuff YOU want to say.
it created a reaction
as long as she wasn’t too upset, its what you want/need
a reaction…then people flock to it
thats my theory
James
Criticism is a brilliant thing, it helps you to improvre and sometimes change yourself for the better. Unfortunately because the internet is many times faceless/anonymous people sometimes say the most outlandish, offensive things possible which they would never say face to face.
In face to face encounters if you say something offensive to someone you face the risk of retaliation, be it verbal or physical.
Online you face none of those risks.
Also I think some people just are offensive just to see the reaction they cause.
This is a great post! There were many times too where i fear rejection and being labelled as “unpopular”, “strange” etc. I guess end of the day you yourself had to brace up and just be yourself.
It is absolutely true that somehow or other, there are bound to be somebody who just doesn’t like you. Which is ok, but you got to learn to accept that, which isn’t easy.
Overall I can’t say I’ve gotten a lot of criticism online, but I’ve had my share in my life. Truthfully, I have to admit that it depends on how it’s delivered as to how I’ll take it.
In person it’s easy because, not being a small guy, people tend to watch what they’re going to say to you in person because they don’t know what you’ll do to them. I’ve never thought of myself as intimidating, but I have been told I have a stare that puts people off when I get angry.
Online it’s a much different thing, but as I said, it depends on how it’s delivered, and also whether I started it or not. I rarely start stuff but I have written some posts that I knew were going to be controversial because I had a rant to deliver, and only one of those created the reaction I thought might come. I’ve written a couple where I get a reaction I didn’t expect and no, I didn’t defer, but I also tried not to b too rude, though I guess sarcasm isn’t necessarily always nice.
I’d like to answer your main question, though; when is criticism/rejection taken too far? In general there are only two times when it’s taken too far, where people need to watch out. One is calling for someone to be physically hurt, the other is calling for someone to be killed. Other than that; the criticisms might not be necessary, but they can be dealt with.
Great topic.
Hey Mitch,
Good to see you here. I agree. Online is much different than offline. Online brings out a lot more criticism because people feel safe behind their computers.
Hi Lisa. You know the old saying “your can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all the people all of the time”. Just be true to your beliefs and that’s all you can do.
Ellie
I think it’s absolutely useless to fight back or reason with these people. Because 1) They will never agree with you, 2) They will never admit they were wrong 3) They may just sit back and enjoy how you fight/reason with them 4) They may be just trolls (well 3 and 4 are closely related). The best strategy would be to play along or just ignore. For example, my friend, a professional MMA fighter, made a hilarious video where he was jokingly teaching MMA fighters how to “defend” themselves from box fighters. The video was in response to box fighters making similar videos about defending themselves from MMA fighters. To most people it was obvious that the video was just a parody, because he used such advice as “because boxers can only hit in the jaw, you need to cover your left jaw by lifting up your left shoulder, and cover your right jaw by your palm – and the boxer will never get you!”. The video was a huge success in the Russian MMA community, but he received many negative comments that explained that you cannot defend yourself from a box fighter this way and called him stupid and a few other names. Well my point is, that there’s always someone out there who won’t “get” you. My friend chose the best strategy – he did not explain it was a joke, nor did he get defensive, he just played along with them in the comments by asking what their expertise was and what really could help in a fight with boxers, so he could educate himself.
I haven’t gotten any criticism online (yet), but I’ve have had my fair share of “smart” comments and remarks from people around me who, I eventually found out, are still oblivious to the whole making money on the Internet thing. I guess the idea that it’s possible for someone to make good money to pay the bills and a few luxuries now and then seems just too good to be true for them. I’ve eventually learned to take things in stride and ignore most of them.
I’ve had to deal with a bit of criticism in my day but the worst ever came from a bigot who took offence about a post I wrote concerning being called wogs. This virtually made him very angry and he attacked me an immigrants in general.
Throughout the whole tirade I kept my cool which made him even angrier. The more comments he left the angrier he got. In the end I had to delete his comments because they were getting very hateful. Some people just can’t see reason.
Sire, I remember that often and how you handled it well. Actually much better than me because, if you remember, I kind of went after the guy myself, until I realized he was just a troll and nothing was going to make him stop.
Yeah, you’ve always had my back Mitch and although I may not say it I really do appreciate it.
You know now that I think about it, it is interesting how keeping your cool tends to make ppl like that more angry..
That in and of itself says alot!
It really does. Which typically goes to show that their anger is about them, not you. As they say… “Kill ’em with kindness.” Works like a charm! lol
I couldn’t agree more.. I watched a video online yesterday where a dude was cursing out another man for speaking the truth.
His response to every slanderous word was “I love you my brother”.
How can you fight love and kindness… LOL.. it’s sill not possible…
Earlier today I got a nasty unsubscribe email filled with foul language from someone who said one of the main aff programs I promote to a certain list is a scam which I and many, many others know for a fact is not! I believe they just didn’t have the patience to see it through as it takes 24 hours just for the technical aspects to be set up.
I have been thinking long and hard over the past several hours if I should respond or just let it go, but after reading this along with a few of the comments I am now thinking I should just let it go and be thankful that person is no longer following..
What do you think Lisa ❓
Hi Caleb
It depends. If the person has clearly misunderstood how a product works, I will take the time to explain (nicely but tactfully) how the program/product works. But some people are just troublemakers/get rich quick seekers and it’s clear you’ll get nowhere with them, so I don’t waste my time.
I believe this guy falls in the latter category due to the nature of foulness he came with. Besides that I have had other criticisms delivered right on my comments where I simply clarified what ended up being misunderstandings that the person ended up seeing so I think you’re right in “not wasting time” on this one in particular.
When I first started my blog, I joined a ton of those “big timers” forum trying to get some feedback on where to go next or how to improve my blog. But to my surprise, many of them, instead of being helpful and encouraging, were down right rude and basically was telling me to quit because I’d never reach anywhere with it.
3 years later, I’m #1 on Google for my main keyword phrase, make money online free, and I rank pretty high for several others too!
One of the thing I got criticized a lot for was because my blog was pink. They said no one would take me seriously. While I could see their point of view, this was my way of putting my personality into my blog and not making it some automated page written by some computer expert. It was just a simple blog by a simple girl showing that it is possible to make money online, and today, that’s still exactly what it is.
Oh and guess what, there are many people that like it!
Congrats! That’s a great keyword to be ranked well for! Wow!
well, you’re quite good in SEO considering that you got the number 1 rank in search result for the keywords in your domain!
I was actually trying to find ways how to get the same result you have but I failed. Besides, until now, there are a lot who are still saying bad against my blog.
I’ve been running my site for nearly 12 years and it has taken me a long time to develop a thick skin for criticism. I have a few mantras I repeat to myself when the critics get me down:
– Controversy does drive traffic. From a business standpoint, even disagreement is good. There is some truth to the “All press is good press” saying.
– If people leave your site because they don’t like you, consider it a blessing. It helps your true supporters stand out all the more.
A great way to look at it, Kim.
One has to develop some thick skin and fast if he/she wishes to work online since it’s guaranteed you will never please everyone. I like how Youtube is some sort of online therapy for you 🙂
When I started blogging in English language in 2003, many fellow Filipino criticized my English composition. They said, it would be better if I would close my blog because I was just humiliating them by publishing articles like what I had.
At first, I felt some like I want to cry… I couldn’t actually describe what I feel.
But I said to my self… “It’s just fine. Next time, I will see to it that the article will be better to read.”
Wow Lisa; I never would have thought. It’s a crazy world we live in. I have a blog that is on an extremely touchy subject which is why I chose not tie it to me at all.
No shares on my Facebook or Twitter; at least not as many as I do for my other articles. It was on the whole Beyonce pregnancy thing. I already knew what was coming… I set my WhoIs data to private just so if someone wanted to physically do harm, they would have to go through a lot of work and even then, they would only come up with my PO Box..
I don’t think people know how easy it is to give people your address. Especially for newbies. I started websites and then saw that my info was available to anyone. All they had to do was type in my website name and they could show up at my doorstep. I don’t want to shoot a youtube video on this because it may hurt more than it helps but it needs to be known.
Some people in this world are KRAZY (with the K) and don’t think twice about doing foolish acts. As webmasters we have to do whatever it takes to protect ourselves as it can be dangerous; especially when talking on an extremely touchy subject.
Doing these videos, you don’t know who’s eyes you are staring into behind that camera…
wish every one on here peace and safety
hey lisa i really like that your doing you have been doing great i have been following you ever sense i seen your channel on youtube. you have come a long way and its great what your doing for the internet and people that want to make money online. I just wanted to say thanks and the best of luck to you and your family.
You said it, we can’t always satisfy everyone…and specially when people are jealous of your success, they always try something to destroy your Business.
What I learn from that kind of situation most of the time is to keep my cool and let it be…Because at the end of the day, who’s going home with a big paycheck…lol?
My best quote “Criticism is easy but the method is hard”
Regards,
Hamilton
Lisa, this is a great article and a point that should be more often discussed ! That “fear” you touch on is not at all uncommon, as there are so many people that by nature enjoy digging in to people whether they agree or not is irrelevant, they just want to trigger peoples emotions or feel superior. Thanks !
Wow, judging by the harsh youtube comments it does sound like you are qualified to deal with criticism. It is true, there will be criticism everywhere you look, and the internet is the worst; people hiding behind screens. Nice post!
I do quite a lot of relationship topics on one of my blogs and I’ve only had a little bit of criticism. Granted, my blog isn’t all that popular, so I suppose more popular blogs are more exposed to this kind of thing.
I often just post the comment (unless it’s really nasty) to let others see it and start a discussion. I find it’s much better to get these things out in the open so others can voice their opinion about things going on in the background.
People shouldn’t be so directly nasty, but when they are, it’s good to see what others are thinking along those lines. I think you’ve done the best thing by airing it here.
Good on you for getting over negative criticism. I’m not very good with it myself, but I can imagine that putting yourself out there, online (where people can be more mean because they are sitting safely behind a computer screen) will toughen you up a lot.
People can have their own opinions of you, but it doesn’t mean you have to live by them. A man’s ways will always seem right to him.
These are two quotes that I live by, “Be who God created you to be, not what man think you should be” & “Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality”-Les Brown.
I’m debating this very thing right now. I’ve just started a weight loss blog about trying to lose half my body weight. A blog like this seems pretty pointless without pictures, but I know I’ll be opening myself up to ridicule. Still, though, there’s no point in having a weight loss blog without pics, so I’ve got to do it. But I am going to keep my last name and city private, for now.
Hi Lisa,
I’m afraid to post to YouTube because of the way I sound on camera. I sound like a little kid and I hate my voice. I procrastinate a lot with it, even though I know I need to make videos. I say “Um” a lot and I hate that. I think I need to practice more. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Scarlet, a little practice and you’ll be surprised at how it will make a difference. Also remember that we are our worst critics. A lot of things you notice about yourself aren’t really visible to others. A lady did a video response to the video in this post and all the things she said she didn’t like about herself I didn’t even notice until she brought them up! And even when I noticed them, I didn’t see them as negative attributes.
Hey Lisa!
This is a very timely post.
It’s funny that you’ve written this post today, because there is a topic that I’ve been fearful to blog about, but this week I finally got the courage to post my feelings and I really don’t care what others say. I’m ready to stand my ground.
I was criticized on a fellow bloggers post, not me personally, but something I chose to install on my blog. I was bothered by it, but I commented on the post and said what I had to say and moved on.
I also have a blog post scheduled for later this week in response to a person’s rant. I’ve finally reached the point in my life where I have stopped worrying about what others think, say and do. I can’t please ALL the people ALL the time and that’s life, now that’s a fact.
Thanks, Lisa!
AWESOME!!!! You should see me smiling from ear to ear as I read this. Good for you, Evelyn.
I’m glad you wrote that you personally weren’t criticized; you I love. 🙂
The best thing is to beleive in yourself and have faith in your online venture. I see most people getting impatient and disheartened when their sites make no money or when no one sees their YouTube Vids. But you must remember that even if you get 20 Views…then it proves that there is an audience around who is watching your video…clicking your video link out of the millions of uploads…so try to please those who are happy and others will follow. and remember what my dad said once, “WHEN PEOPLE CRITICIZE YOU IT MEANS YOU ARE SHOWING PROGRESS AND YOU ARE GETTING NOTICED”….so simply take it sportingly…and there is always that report abuse button when things go too far 🙂
Hi Lisa
As you know I am blogging about technology and not all people agree with my posts and my reviews. That is fine and they are welcome to give their opinion on my blog too. As long it is related to the topic on the post. The problem is when people are getting personally.
Just for the record Lisa, I love you hair 😀
Awwww, thanks Thomas! 🙂
Lisa … When I started doing online marketing my ex wife told me … oh my mother tried do it and she failed… I told my ex wife …. if you fail you stand up and keep going ….
Right Diego! Failure has been my biggest motivator. Good for you for that attitude!
Unfortunately, no ethics or courtesy code exists on the Internet, so those of us who don’t want to stoop to low levels of language or behavior have to create our own and try to abide by it. As a blogger, one way is to monitor comments and only approve those that pass a certain standard. On my blogs, I approve and post all comments, whether critical or not, unless they use unnecessarily rough language or are spam.
When you venture forth to comment on other sites, however, you open yourself up to a different level of criticism, and sometimes the attacks are brutal. The good news is that people who use tough language on the Internet rarely are articulate enough to make a positive or meaningful impact on the thought processes of others. Thanks for the insights!
When I write a controversial post, I do my best to make sure I’ve clearly stated my position and anticipated and answered logical counter-arguments as best as I can.
There have been a few times I’ve dealt with harsh and rude comments. I usually wait at least 15 minutes before replying, and sometimes a day or more. Then I make sure my reply is measured and restrained.
And there’s been a couple of times I’ve deleted comments that were full of swear words and had no redeeming value.
Such a great strategy because sometimes you do want to jump in and go on the defensive but I’ve also learned that the waiting tactic works well (if it warrants a response at all!)
I sometimes liken online critics to road rage. Just as its easy to get mad at someone from the security of your car, so too is it easy when your in the privacy of your home.
Great point! 🙂
What a timely post, Lisa. Love your video and I think your hair is gorgeous! 🙂
I’m fortunate so far in that I haven’t had criticism yet, though for a previous information product I did receive some just because there are always going to be angry, bitter people who have nothing better to do with their time than spread their negativity.
I’ve just started doing video product reviews, and you can see one of them in my follow-up link. I think I’m my own worst judge when I think of things I could improve, but I know that if you can just put yourself out there, more positive than negative will come out of it, especially when you’re clearly doing your best to provide value.
Another online person who’s been in the same niche as me for far longer is quite professional, yet she still receives some negative feedback. It goes with the territory of putting yourself out there.
If you have something great to offer, just do it with the understanding that you can’t please everyone all the time. And it’s hard sometimes, especially when we’re sensitive, but we’ve got to do it anyway. 🙂
That’s right, Amy. It’s better to keep pushing than not doing it all and letting fear get the best of you!
When I first started online I was shocked at some of the things people said and the way some went out of their way to tear people down. Eventually I decided it was a very small part of the great things that happen online and when I receive criticism I always knew that it had more to do with the person sending the message – it was their stuff, not mine. I am much stronger about it now 6 years later than I was but it definitely can be an adjustment!
Good for you!! And that’s really the attitude you have to take out here. 🙂
Hi Lisa, interesting Video. I am just after creating my own personal site, which I will use to do discuss literature topics, book reviews and have debatable topics which will attract I am sure people who will have strong opinions and will want to criticize (as I also plan to place some of my personal writing on the site to) and I expect some morons to leave crazy bad comments that fortunately I might just enjoy and take on the chin. As you say, you can not please everyone, especially in the world of know it all wiki people who just like to go about peeing people of with negativity, you do need a strong chin online.
Definitely! Thanks for stopping by Stephen.
“From being called the N-word many times on YouTube.”
You know. I am absolutely SICK of that word. It’s used so interchangeably with other insults. People that use it are pathetic. I get a ton of racist comments myself. Just a slightly different form though. “You’re white, you can’t possibly comprehend” or “come to my country, people here love Westerners”. I get it ALL the time. People believe that because I’m white, I have some deluded sense of racial superiority and I have things easy. That’s the only thing wrong with diversity.
When will humanity realize that, yes, each race is different, and yes, it’s OK to talk about them? Let’s not dwell on those differences, though, eh?
I notice a lot of sexism too. You know, the “innocent” kind. My favorite was “since when do girls know how to use appliances outside the kitchen?”
Sorry to babble on about such a topic. Drives me crazy, it really does. Great post, Lisa
Regards
~Eleanor
LOL @ the appliance comment. So true!
Fortunately these people make a very small percentage of my feedback and I just chalk it up to ignorance. What annoys me even more is when people let that kind of stuff keep them from moving forward. Then they’re letting the ignorance win.
I actually feel sorry for some of these people because they are either very ignorant or just so unhappy that they have nothing better to do than bring others down. It’s funny how they think they are hurting people with the rudeness, but they are really just showing how ignorant they are.
Hi
Recently posted my first YouTube video and naively expected the comments to be of a professional nature – WRONG.
I was shocked at the sort of content that was written and when I deleted the most offensive, I was accused of not allowing freedom of speech. But I wouldn`t want anyone to see the kind of things that people were writing.
I suppose it`s a learning cureve, but it still shocked me
Best wishes to all
Sharon
Unbelievable… why do people need to be so rude, criticism can be accomplished without racist or misogynous comments. These comments only highlight the persons ignorance.
That’s the way I see it too, Geoff. 🙂
I am a kind of guy who believes,”if your criticism is not constructive,keep ur opinions to yourself because u have no idea what i had to go through to be there “. SO racist and misogynous comments are a definite no no for me.. Nice to see you consoling lisa.
I’ve got a fairly large following on my several twitter accounts, sites and facebook pages and for the most part haven’t had too much backlash or criticism. I think the key is to be political when you write even when you’re writing about topics that that you strongly agree/disagree with make sure when readers read it that they realise you’re not putting people down who disagree with you. Also important to show that you’re open to other people’s opinions and welcome people to try and change your mind through intelligent conversation. (have firm rules for comments on your blog and make sure your readers know them. i.e. no swearing, trolling, spamming or shameless promotion)
Also a very good idea to choose limits to how much you share. I’m a fairly open person and share ALMOST everything about my work and personal life on my sites and podcasts I gueststar in though I draw the line at mentioning companies people’s names. Also while I’m completely open about being gay (something I thought was important as a lot of my readers are 16 – 30yrs old. I wanted to be a good role model for them) I NEVER talk about my relationships, breakups, etc.
It is important to be yourself online as Lisa says. Completely agree 100% and noone should be discouraged by the possibility of people not liking you. It is important though to make conscious decisions on how you present yourself though. Telling people EVERYTHING about yourself is just asking for conflict. Controlled marketing is the key.
Agree Brad and I think finding that mix is tough for people. It’s one of those things you have to sort of feel out as a marketer and learn as you go.
Lisa, I have had to deal with some critics in my day, the funny thing about it is that most of the time they were dead wrong about what they were saying or assumed about me so it was very easy for me to dismiss them. I go out of my way NOT to write posts that put others down or to attract controversy because I don’t want that to take away from the message I’m trying to get across of helping people.
At times there’s a fine line – almost like a tight-rope – that we need to tread if we want to remain above the fray.
It’s always good to keep in mind that we can be banned from any network that doesn’t belong to us and many times there is nothing that we can do to have our accounts restored. That’s another great reason to diversify and not put all of our eggs in one basket.
Now I’m sitting here thinking “Now what could they possibly say about sweet Ileane???” LOL! But as I said to Chante, it shows that it is open season for everyone out here…. whether it’s online or off. And yes, I agree with you wholeheartedly on diversification.